Why do I feel lonely or isolated?

You can feel lonely or isolated for many reasons even when other people are around you.

Some reasons you might feel lonely or isolated may come from what is happening in your life, especially if you’ve experienced major changes. These include:

• living alone or lacking close family around you
• grieving for a friend, a spouse or your partner
• going through a separation, divorce or family break up
• retiring from work, changing schools or jobs, or being unemployed
• living away from home for the first time
• having a language or cultural barrier or being away from your culture of origin

Other reasons to feel lonely or isolated include:

• feeling worried or stressed
• being bullied
• feeling unsure about your sexuality
• having a mental health problem, such as depression or anxiety
• having a physical disability

How can loneliness and isolation affect my health?

Feeling connected to others is important for our mental and physical wellbeing and can protect against anxiety and depression. If you feel alone or socially isolated for a long time, you might experience physical or mental problems or do things that are bad for you.

• Physical symptoms — such as headaches, feeling ill, having pains, feeling tired, having sleep problems or lacking motivation.
• Mental health conditions — such as depression, feeling anxious, having panic attacks or feeling paranoid.
• Low energy — feeling tired or not having motivation.
• Sleep problems — not being able to get to sleep, stay asleep or waking up a lot.
• Diet problems — such as putting on weight, losing weight or losing your appetite.
• Negative feelings — such as feeling worthless or hopeless or thinking about suicide.
• Substance abuse — such as drinking a lot of alcohol, misusing medicines or taking drugs.

What can help?

You can do many things to help overcome loneliness and isolation and improve your life.

Connecting with family and friends

When you’re feeling lonely, it can be challenging to connect with others but that’s just what you need to do. Reach out to a family member, workmate or neighbour. It can help you feel better and it’s likely they will appreciate a call, text or email.